i know what you mean! it's not just american society, either, canadian too. that especially occurs to me when a movie containing sex is rated NC-17, yet a 13 year old can go see people blown apart. (most american movies rated R come here and are rated pg13.) personally, i think the stigma would be much more appropriate if it was shifted to violence. think of it.... happy, hippie, free-love society. sounds fun! you're right about it being... not a big deal. i mean, it is, sorta, but not anything in the scale that we have it, where people are being killed over sexual orientation and everyone is in everyone's business, and you don't really want to run around mentioning you read and write gay porn, frequently and happily no less.