that skeevy guy

[cimorene]

Here's a really good post from synecdochic about How Not To Be That Guy that brings together male priviledge and creepiness and stuff in the wake of that Open Source Boob business.

It coalesces some things that I've never been able to quite put into words. Thinking about this now, I'm really kind of angry. You know how if someone (some GUY) is creeping you out, you nonetheless end up feeling guilty for being creeped out if you can tell they don't realise they're being rude (whereas they doubtless feel no guilt at all for being creepy, and probably don't even bother to notice your signals of discomfort)? I can't believe that I've literally never noticed before that that's just another manipulative aspect of fucking male priviledge.

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[guinevere33.livejournal.com]

WORD.

[annlarimer.livejournal.com]

Don't you know that men have every right to pursue you with every passive-aggressive means at their disposal, then brand you as cold and heartless when you fail to respond?

If you respond negatively, on the other hand, you are emotionally abusive.