Headers: Don't Be That Guy (rec) and A Digression into Backhanded FB (my own)

[cimorene]

penknife explains fic headers with praiseworthy, exhaustive thoroughness (you could give an exam on headers with this post as the text) and a dash of wit in Headers, or the only way we have to judge a book by its cover, making it a worthwhile read for all from the utter newbie to the bitter old fandom queen who never neglects her headers at all and just wants to enjoy the snark.

For some reason, people often seem inspired to write things in the Author's Note field like "I decided to write Bob/Ted even though I think Bob/Ted shippers are dumb and all the other Bob/Ted stories I've ever read suck" when posting to a Bob/Ted community. Don't be that person.

You know, I've often wanted to say something like that, but I've never managed it so concisely. Don't be that person, guys. Even though the urge is often strong, no good can come of it!

That quote reminds me of the Insulting A/N's close cousin, the Backhanded Feedback. Which brings to mind that somewhere I was reading lately, someone was talking about Don't Be That Guy in the context of how "I enjoyed your Bob/Ted story even though I think Bob/Ted shippers are dumb and Bob/Ted is inherently inclined to be sucky" is not the great complimentary fb you might have thought it was. I'm pretty sure it was in the context of the Due South wank (aka Ray Wars iteration #1,600,042: Yes We're Still At It, What Is This Fandom History of Which You Speak?¹) accompanied with flounce that was at Fandom Wank last week or so. Can't remember the precise context or the exchange, though, just that it's the first time I've seen anyone respond to it with "Hey, I totally leave feedback like that all the time and it's really a compliment".


1. No, I'm not making this up. Yes, they really are still at it. See?

Comments

[suaine.livejournal.com]

The Ray wars are back? That makes me feel very old and also a bit nostalgic.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I know, right? And the last time I was into Due South, which was a whole fannish generation ago it seems, there were the occasional wee echoes of Ray Wars and then people would always wax nostalgic about the Ray Wars of ancient times. DOUBLY ancient now, it seems.

[suaine.livejournal.com]

Yes, this, exactly. I got into Due South when the Ray wars were a thing of memory and hurt feelings and people still licking their wounds, and now it's like "blast from the past!". It's very odd, yet strangely reassuring. There will always be wank, and apparently, there will always be *the same wank*, so one never has to worry to miss something, because the universe will come back around to it eventually :D