how to write sex scenes

[cimorene]

resonant8 recently did a lecture series (except they were lj entries) on how to write sex scenes [whose purpose is to be arousing] in four parts:  make me yearn, pick one zing and stick to it, make the sex fit the characters and choose your details carefully.  they're good essays all, concise and well-formulated and smart.  i can't find anything in them to disagree with at all, and there was something new in this way of thinking about it, for me--not new concepts, but an outline and articulation i hadn't met before.  i found myself wishing several times as i read through them that something like this would be required reading for smut-writing slashers.