help! the l-word?

[cimorene]

for those of you who are happily settled in romantic relationships with life-partners:

how big a deal was saying 'i love you' the first time? did you ever say it? did it occur to you that it was a big deal? did you bypass it as sapped of all meaning and express yourself some other way instead? was there ever, like, a mutual confession, and if so, do you think of it as a milestone, or does it blend in because really, in retrospect, you both knew it already anyway?

(i have only my one, personal experience to draw from, and wax_jism and i differ wildly in our use of the 'love' word. i don't know how realistic basing myself on that is. fictional!BM and RFM are not like me. they are more the hallmark-card-buying sort of person, so i need a more representative sample.)

Comments

[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

it was a big moment for us. we had a strange start to our relationship (she was dating someone else) and when we got together, we had declared this free and open, easy-going sort of thing. i remember once, after we were dating for months when someone asked us if we were girlfriends now. and we were all awkward and didn't know how to answer. and then talked about it and decided yes. so it was after about three months that i was just feeling it so strongly that i was bursting to tell her. and so i did. or, i said, 'i'm falling in love with you.' and she said the same. it was a happy night.


i just checked with rach and she said, yeah, it was a big moment for her too.

:)

[cimness.livejournal.com]

awwwwwwwwwwwh.

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even if this doesn't help me i should have asked before. everybody has these warmfuzzy stories.