help! the l-word?

[cimorene]

for those of you who are happily settled in romantic relationships with life-partners:

how big a deal was saying 'i love you' the first time? did you ever say it? did it occur to you that it was a big deal? did you bypass it as sapped of all meaning and express yourself some other way instead? was there ever, like, a mutual confession, and if so, do you think of it as a milestone, or does it blend in because really, in retrospect, you both knew it already anyway?

(i have only my one, personal experience to draw from, and wax_jism and i differ wildly in our use of the 'love' word. i don't know how realistic basing myself on that is. fictional!BM and RFM are not like me. they are more the hallmark-card-buying sort of person, so i need a more representative sample.)

Comments

[hollsh.livejournal.com]

We'd been dating over a month, maybe near the two month mark, and I'd moved in with him.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

that's not very long then.

[hollsh.livejournal.com]

No, not really. But I guess we just knew.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

you're that kind of person. i mean that in the best possible way. although wax is *not* that kind of person, and i don't mean it as an insult to her. she's sort of... snapish. spockish. and i think it's cuter than cute. she's cautious. but so cute. ♥

i knew. i mean, i knew way before i fell in love that i could and i made the conscious decision to not try to stop myself. you probably remember when i was agonizing over it actually--it was before you got pregnant, shortly after we met.