help! the l-word?
3 Jun 2004 10:42 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cimorenefor those of you who are happily settled in romantic relationships with life-partners:
how big a deal was saying 'i love you' the first time? did you ever say it? did it occur to you that it was a big deal? did you bypass it as sapped of all meaning and express yourself some other way instead? was there ever, like, a mutual confession, and if so, do you think of it as a milestone, or does it blend in because really, in retrospect, you both knew it already anyway?
(i have only my one, personal experience to draw from, and![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
wax_jism and i differ wildly in our use of the 'love' word. i don't know how realistic basing myself on that is. fictional!BM and RFM are not like me. they are more the hallmark-card-buying sort of person, so i need a more representative sample.)
how big a deal was saying 'i love you' the first time? did you ever say it? did it occur to you that it was a big deal? did you bypass it as sapped of all meaning and express yourself some other way instead? was there ever, like, a mutual confession, and if so, do you think of it as a milestone, or does it blend in because really, in retrospect, you both knew it already anyway?
(i have only my one, personal experience to draw from, and
wax_jism and i differ wildly in our use of the 'love' word. i don't know how realistic basing myself on that is. fictional!BM and RFM are not like me. they are more the hallmark-card-buying sort of person, so i need a more representative sample.)
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Date: 4 Jun 2004 10:02 am (UTC)i don't think that deciding it is a trite and cliched phrase devoid of personal meaning is NECESSARILY indicative of being fucked-up about love. i mean, you might well be, but, you know, it IS rather cliched. and it's used to mean such a wide range of things that it's actually sort of non-specific.