plain gold band on the right ring finger

[cimorene]

[Poll #930567]

i've seen at least three finnish people wearing these, one of them in addition to a diamond band (or two?) on the left ring finger, one of them with no other rings. the latter of the two has apparently spent a lot of time in estonia, if that means anything.

discuss?

Comments

[kmazzy.livejournal.com]

i have no clue about your question but i used to work with a Czech girl who wore a diamondy type ring on the ring finger of her left hand so i asked if she was engaged and she looked horrified and explained that where she was from it meant she did NOT want to get married...

which seems very confusing!

[cimness.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that's kind of a big difference...

[thegoldsky.livejournal.com]

if gay wedding rings are supposed to be worn on the right hand, then someone should call up my ex and tell her she's doing it wrong.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

Maybe Dom & Elijah can fit it into their busy schedule of chartreuse-and-lavender wardrobe planning.

right hand

[devon.livejournal.com]

Are Dom and Elijah *still* being gay with each other? I hadn't heard any news on that front in ages.

Re: right hand

[cimness.livejournal.com]

There are still people posting in the community, but I haven't actually read the posts in a long time. I understand a lot of attention is on Viggo and Orli but that the Domlijah tinhats still exist, having mainly retreated to quieter and higher-security fora.

[hollsh.livejournal.com]

My mom wears her father's wedding band on her right hand. :p

[cimness.livejournal.com]

Someone else mentioned that practise as well.

[perhael.livejournal.com]

Where I am, it's either a promise ring or a wedding ring. You know, I had no idea gay people were supposed to wear their wedding rings on a different side than straight people.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

I don't think they're actually "supposed" to as in the majority of gay people do it or anything. According to the Domlijah tinhats it was so the fact that they're married could be a big Seekrit, but I don't know why ordinary gay people would have adopted the practice.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

Wait, but do people also still use the left ring finger? Like interchangeably?

[anglepoiselamp.livejournal.com]

Wow. I have no idea. But Wikipedia says: "In Norway, Russia, Poland, Germany, Austria, Denmark, countries of former Yugoslavia and in Spain (except in Catalonia) the wedding ring is worn on the ring finger on the right hand."

The Wiki ring finger article is also cool because it mentions the specific avoidance of naming the ring finger in some cultures (in Finnish it's called 'nimetön' = 'nameless'). I was always told it's something to do with the devil and how true names have power.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

I didn't know that about Spain at all. Or Norway, and I do know a Norwegian. The people could just be married to foreigners or of foreign descent, I guess.

[melle.livejournal.com]

i have heard of the gay wedding ring thing, but everyone i know around here (louisiana) who is gay and married just uses the left ring finger.

...of course they don't have to be as undercover about it as dom and elijah.

although i'm thinking as far as being undercover goes, dom's theory is that hiding in plain sight (http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/showbiz/a42861/monaghan-admits-dressing-in-womens-clothes.html?rss) is the best option. it's looking pretty genius to me! *adopts plan*

[cimness.livejournal.com]

HAHAHHAHA. Oh Dominic. ♥ "I should be gay, but I love women too much" is my favourite straightboy quote, I think.

[kyuuketsukirui.livejournal.com]

It's actually code! He was trying to tell us that he is gay and loves women as friends because he's such a fairy princess! /tinhat

[cimness.livejournal.com]

Is it bad that that was actually my first thought? "MsA wouldn't even break a sweat over that", or "It doesn't necessarily imply that he isn't gay! He said he WANTS to be gay, which in fact is almost the same as saying he is!"

[achiasa.livejournal.com]

...okay, so for some reason I have always thought that wedding rings are right hand, engagement rings left. Because when my mum still wore her rings, that was how. I'm sure I remember her telling me that was how it worked, too, and now that I think on it, my maternal grandmother has one on each hand as well. Either it's an English thing or a family thing.

[cimness.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's an all of England thing because I'd think I'd have noticed that in literature somewhere before. And also no other English people commented. But it doesn't seem to be the only place where it can go either way.

[morningfine]

Or it could just be an ordinary nothing-meaning ring. But I've known two people who wore their rings, while married/engaged, on the right ring finger. I wonder why I never asked about that, now. :/

[cimness.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's just an ordinary meaningless ring because, in the first place, these rings are plain gold bands, which strongly says "wedding band" to me; and also because the first person was a fairly well-dressed middle-aged man who wore no other jewelry. The most recent one I noticed could be meaningless, I suppose.