cimorene

your background comes from everything that happens around you when you grow up. i'm a firm nurture-supporter in the nature/nurture debate, even down to artisitic and writing skills to a large extent, and it matters how many friends you had and who they were and what your parents thought about everything and how hot it was and how often you played outside. but the thing is that when you have good parents to whom you're very close they're like half of your nurture all together because they color how you take in EVERYTHING else.

guinevere33 and i, as the lovely (if bitter and old)

wax_jism can attest, do not have southern accents despite growing up in the heart of dixie--why? because my father's parents grew up in nyc, so he doesn't, and my mother grew up in kansas. why? because even though her mother was bred in the carolinas, is named betty gail and gan sound like katherine tucker windham on a good day, her father is from maryland. confederate battle flags? jesus fish? the word 'y'all'? ignorance of evolution? an inexplicable distaste for biracial marriage, or, hm, a desire to see the ten commandmants on the wall? move right along, folks, because you're not going to find them here. we're alabamians, not southerners, transplants, not fucking natives. no one in 18 years has assumed either of us was from tuscaloosa, but in less than 12 months, people can't tell she's not pure la and i'm not pure massachusetts, so yeah.

your heritage, your upbringing, your background? those are in your home. not around your house.