another category defying one here

[cimorene]

• ridged streak of manners


• you were invalidated in hospital


• "I hope you shall not miss out tomorrow morning's banquette"


• admiral in his pursuit of the plight of those less fortunate


• reigning in the panic

Comments

[lilysea]

You were invalidated in hospital

I read this one and went "that's a perfectly normal statement"

and then realised, oh, they're trying to say INVALIDED.

I, and many many people with chronic illness/Disability
(especially if they are one or more of
women;
people of colour;
fat)
have been *invalidated* in hospital

eg "your chest pain is just anxiety" -> sends person actively having a heart attack home

I actually have a pinboard tag, doctorsdismiss, about times hospitals have invalidated seriously ill patients and dismissed serious medical issues - often resulting in deaths.

I bookmark them partly so that I can try to work out
how to behave/what levers to pull
so that I don't get invalidated,

and partly so that I can find them easily if I need to prove that it happens.

It happens to women more often than men;

fat women more often than thin women;

women of colour more often than white women;

Aboriginal Australian women more often than women of colour who aren't Aboriginal.

There's also another form of invalidation that happens in hospital -

"you don't need pain medication, your pain isn't that bad"

"you don't need a wheelchair"

"you don't need to lie down in a bed, you can just sit on this hard plastic chair for 8 hours while waiting for a doctor to look at you" - this one actually happened. There was an empty bed *right there* but they were all "oh, we're saving this bed in case someone needs it". I needed it!
I ended up lying on the floor on a cotton blanket, and then going home without having had my suspected concussion looked at.

[cimorene]

Yep! The Ironically Appropriate category of eggcorn. Doctors in generally seem to be signficantly more likely to dismiss/invalidate/disbelieve people on the basis of societal power differentials/group memberships even than bureaucracies/power structures in general. Probably not explicable by the field's domination by white cismale etc doctors, either, although the historical power structures of the medical establishment surely play their part. Regardless, unfortunately the best way to be taken seriously is to be a cis white man in the normal weight range. And most likely neurotypical and not socioeconically disadvantaged, if they can tell this by your speech or appearance.

[princessofgeeks]

I myself would like to reign in the panic. Because then I could FIX STUFF.

[cimorene]

Or be in charge of causing the panic!

[krait]

admiral in his pursuit of the plight of those less fortunate

From osmosis, this sounds like the plot of that new pirate show. :D

[cimorene]

Who do you osmose is an admiral in this scenario, and what constitutes pursuit of a plight?

[krait]

I have osmosed that there's a character from a well-to-do background who decides to run away and become a pirate, which sounds like 'pursuing the plight of the less fortunate' to me. :D I doubt his actual rank is Admiral, but hey, there's only 2 (?) seasons so far, so it might be in his future!

[cimorene]

Ah, I see, you could construe an attempt to live as a pirate to be pursuing (in order to inhabit) the plight of pirates (who are less fortunate than him). MOST pirates were fairly marginalized before taking up piracy - as it's sort of an extreme measure - so certainly they had some plight. After becoming a pirate you acquire a plight, presumably, in that the British navy would like to kill and/or hang you, so he's also pursued outlaw status...

[krait]

Yep, "I'm actively departing from a situation where I have a wealthy family and comfortable lifestyle to live on a shipful of criminals despite having no actual need to do so" sounds like pursuit to me. :D And for all those who ended up criminals becase they had no better option, that presumably means that some kind of unfortunate plight struck them, which resulted in their turning to piracy. So compared to Mr. "I'm just doing this for fun" their plight is much less fortunate; he had many choices, including social status and legal protections, that they never had, or once had but lost through unpleasant circumstances.

(Hmmm, I need a pirate icon.)